It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. It’s not in itself a bad thing. If you cannot take care of and nuture and tend to your needs when you have them (not just when the timing is perfect), how can you ever know what it feels like to have your needs met by the one person closest to you (you)?
It’s important to know how to fill your cup. And if you don’t know how to take care of yourself so your cup is full, how can you then give to others out of your overflow, your full cup?
When we are selfish, in a healthy self-loving way, we are actually expanding our capacity to be selfless, to care more, to give more, to love more. And we can better do it from a place of fullness rather than need. It them comes from a good heart and with good intentions, puting that energy into motion for you and those who drink from full cup.