07 Apr

Too Pretty?

I share this as a reminder about how things can be for a woman trying to work. For me, it started at 15. And I will go back and say I have a working spirit. If I could work, I did. I did odd jobs, sold candy, delivered newspapers, and other things until I was 15 and old enough for a work permit.

family restaurant

And yes, I wanted to work. I went to a nearby family restaurant in Waterworks Mall in Pittsburgh to ask about a job as a hostess. I came in and spoke to the manager and was told that I would be great but he couldn’t hire me because I was too pretty and would distract the guys working on the kitchen. At 15 I didn’t even have a response. It wasn’t a compliment but he tried to make me feel like it was.

It would be the following year before I found a job, and only because I met someone who knew the manager at the McDonald’s downtown. My next job in the back of a dry cleaners steaming out clothes and pressing shirts was because of knowing someone as well.

I learned a lot from these experiences but I will never forget that in my first foray in the job market my looks and being a female were a liability (later learned to turn that around) but it stays with you.

As a female coming from a poor family I wanted to work and I was put in the margins not because I couldn’t do the job but because of other people’s inability to manage themselves.

Did I really have that much power?  No. What I had was the excuse those who hold power have held over women since the beginning of time. I am not your Eve. I am not the apple you are powerless to resist. Man up and resist the temptation.

Bernette Sherman is an author, speaker, and coach. See my creative works and offerings, including classes, and playshops at www.CreativeCoreHS.com.

31 Mar

Personal Love

Over the past couple of months I’ve given a lot of thought to the idea of love. I’ve thought about love as it relates to my husband, my children, my mother and brothers, my neighbors, my neighborhood, my city, my country, and the world I live in. I’ve thought about love as it relates to God and how God relates to me. I thought about it in these ways because love is personal. It is something you feel, give, and receive on a personal level. Talking about love only becomes real through the experience of it.

I never knew what it was like to love someone completely without any conditions or expectations until I gave birth to my daughter. My heart expanded and my concept of love with it. I now understood my own mother better because of that experience.

When I look at the world right now, I see it. I see love. I know that it is easy to be distracted by the flashing lights of discontent and what appears as hate, but I recognize that as a lack of love. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying that love brings up anything unlike itself. Why? So, that it can be healed by love. Five years ago, I couldn’t have imagined being in this place and faced with the challenge of expanding love, peace, and equality on such a large scale but here we are. It got personal. It got personal for the masses.

It had been personal for many disenfranchised groups for a long time, but the voices became louder because there are more of them. Some voices cry out against a thing. I want to cry out for something. I want to cry out for more love, knowing that if we have more love the rest will follow.

Personal Love
I desire for love to become a consumable centerpiece at the table of life, shared by all, because all are welcome at the table. I don’t imagine it will happen overnight. I’m not that naïve. But I do believe that our world will lean more visibly towards love by the time I see the faces of my grandchildren. While the large demonstrations are important for building awareness and raising consciousness on a mass level, the small demonstrations are even more important.
I’m speaking of the small acts of love we have an opportunity to show every single day to our family, our friends, our neighbors, and in our neighborhoods. Perhaps it’s the smile you give a stranger at the grocery store, helping a mom with her hands full, picking up something that someone dropped, buying someone lunch, or even a coffee, calling an old friend just to say hi and show you care. Simple things that collectively raise the energy of love higher.
Now is the time to recommit to loving more and there is no shortage of ways to love.

In what ways can you love others?

Bernette Sherman is an author, speaker, and coach. Her book Heaven is Now: Enough Excuses is available in paperback and e-book formats on AmazonCreative Core is how she shares her gifts with the world through books, poetry, classes, playshops, and more.

25 Mar

Resist Persist: A Special Collection of Poetry Available

I’m excited to announce that my first book of complete poetry will be available soon as an ebook. You can pre-order now at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06XT2MKDX.

The book includes poetry that challenges our ideas around involvement, activism, peace, and living now. We can resist and still persist.

This is a personal collection with most works written in the last few years, sprinkled with a few that span more than a decade. A glimpse into my own complexities, this book will leave you inspired to be an active participant in this inter-sectional and complicated existence called life.

Oh and be sure to pre-order and save your receipt to either send for $10 off class registration on Creative Core and to get my upcoming single free. (It will be releasing this Spring if all goes just right.)

24 Mar

Start Within

There are a million reasons we may feel upset and worried about the future. Whether you see the world and the problems that persist in one form or another since the understanding of time by humans or you recognize the escalation of those same issues in our time, it can feel very real.

What can I, as one single person in a world of billions do to change anything? I have my idea and vision and I’m allowing it to start with me and go out with my writing and expression through and with Creative Core. And I feel excited about my choice and path because I am more encouraged now than I have ever been to believe we are on the precipice of a future that will recognize and honor all people, truly.

A future that, while respecting our beautiful differences that make each of us special, also recognizes the many similarities. The ones that we often don’t see at first glance. The ones that require we get to know each other. That we meet, talk, break bread, and go deeper than the tags and labels we so easily apply when viewing each other from the outside.

I am encouraged. I am also grateful that we are collectively reaching for higher. That we are becoming aware not only of the reality of an oppressive landscape we have struggled under ourselves but are becoming empathetic to different oppressive conditions people unlike us face each day. Through our own struggles, we are finally able to connect with those of someone else.

Start Within

It’s when we are willing to do some inner reflection and look at the world both as it is and how it could be that we see the gap and can begin closing it. Don’t be afraid to say it isn’t working. Because right now, in this three-dimensional reality, it is not. By the same token, be fearless in knowing that it will work but only if we, as women, work it.

Start with yourself. Determine the key issues you are most passionate about. Where do you stand? Are you flexible in finding creative solutions and considering new ideas? How can you advocate in a peaceful (that doesn’t mean lying down), respectful, and loving way? And yes, sometimes love can be tough. Figure that out for yourself, and then find your sisters and get started.

My dear Pearls, a world that works for all of us starts with you and extends from there. It starts with you looking within and determining what your truth is and then living it every day.

How about joining or creating a group? It may be for your area or the world, and start the conversation with others who share your passions.

I am on the west side of Atlanta and through Creative Core my goal is to use words to raise consciousness and as a way of creative expression so that our young people learn the power of thinking creatively and expressing themselves constructively. At the same time I do this myself as a poet, author of fiction, and inspiration. My works start within me, literally and can spread as far as books and the internet can take them. Change the minds, we change the world.

How else can you show up? Tweet to @BernetteSherman with your comments.

You can also make a suggestion for what else we can do in the comments.

As you get involved remember to always, first and foremost, take care of you. We’re all better when we do.

When we work together we become a force unmatched. Let us choose right now to take this as far as we can, to be lights for others, to be a voice for the silenced, and to resist the fear and complacency that has crippled us.

Let’s start within and spread far and wide.

Bernette Sherman is an author, speaker, and coach. Her book Heaven is Now: Enough Excuses is available in paperback and e-book formats on AmazonCreative Core is how she shares her gifts with the world through books, poetry, classes, playshops, and more.

23 Mar

Get It. Don’t Waste the Sacrifice -Video Blog

time is money

Video Blog – Get It. Don’t Waste the Sacrifice about the need for us to appreciate the journey of those who came before us, recognize privilege in its many forms, and own up to creating a life for ourselves and our posterity. Don’t waste the sacrifices made for you to be where you are.

What do you think?

17 Mar

Doing What You Must – Despite Fear

Another car talk about something I’m dealing with this week. Dealing with my fear and shame over a part of me I don’t daylight much and don’t share with many who aren’t in my circle of trust.

I figured I’d finally upload it since what I’m talking about is about to become real and open to the world on Saturday, March 18 and yeah, I’m still nervous and unsure, but I’m not stepping back.

13 Mar

The Shift in Religion and Spirituality – Church Isn’t the Same

Unscripted thoughts on the shift or transition in religion and spirituality. I’m non-traditional myself but am an ordained interfaith minister with a new thought approach. I’m not ‘religious’, don’t follow dogma, base my spirituality around love and personal power, and don’t force my beliefs on anyone since there isn’t anything to force.

I talk about my  own spiritual approach in my short ebook The Fall and Rise of Faith, Losing My Religion and Finding God (Amazon) at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LWWRP6Y.

This video is separate and based on personal and intuitive revelations and observations over the past year and more.

09 Jan

Just Words

They are just words

It’s not like I ever hit you

They’re only words

What are you weak?

I never did a thing

They are but words

What’s wrong with you?

Can’t you take a joke?

I never raised a hand

or grabbed you by the throat

Are you stupid, blind, or just crazy

to think I’d ever hurt you

I love you more than I’ve ever loved

Yeah, I’m giving that love to you

You should be grateful I’d have you

Some days I’m not sure why I do

You don’t respect, treat me like less

and then get moody

Like I did something to you

If anything it’s you, not me

Walking around like you scared to speak

I’ll tell you what then, I’ll speak for you

You don’t have anything worth saying anyway

What was that? You trying to talk back?

I won’t be disrespected

This is my house and I do what I do

You just make sure you clean up the mess

I need to get out of here

don’t ask me where I’m going

don’t tell me you need to talk

You’re lucky all I have is words for you

and those words better be enough

Like I said, I’d never hurt you

So just move out the way…

They are just words

I tell myself

He’d never hit me, so it’s okay

I step back and watch him walk away…

I write this poem to let those who are suffering and have suffered from the invisibility of being in an emotionally abusive relationship. It is real. You are seen. Don’t let the internal hurt be minimized because it doesn’t bear external scars. They are not just words. What is spoken is powerful and writes itself onto our minds and hearts. It impacts us in ways we may not even see for years. You are strong and worthy and deserving, just as I was and am. Love yourself enough to trust that you do deserve to be loved the right way.

#emotionalabuse #wordshurt

26 Dec

Happy Holidays and Here’s to Saying Yes to You in the New Year

2017 is Near and It’s Time to Say Yes!


On December 26th I woke up with a vision for a book that would launch me into 2016 and into following a dream I’d let lie dormant for too long.

I chose to be an author. I chose to write. I chose to create worlds that left the confines of my mind to be given breathe through the stroke of each finger against black keys that brought life to words as they went from thought to screen. It was in those early days when I wondered where the vision would lead, where the dream would take me, and if I could really do it, that I said yes. Yes to me and my hopes to live outside as I do within. To release the power that is in me, fueling me to honor myself and the power that flows.

It was in those moments, in the early hours of morning, when it was quiet and others slept, that dreams took form and Chosen was implanted, firmly burrowed in, ready.

But, what I didn’t know at the time, was that it wasn’t just my first novel that I was pregnant with. It was life itself – my life, that gave me fullness. I was expecting and just like a baby, you don’t know what it will look like when born, but you nurture it in the womb and trust that it is good, because you put good things in.

I trusted, and in conceiving the idea for Chosen I also conceived a new me. One where I allow my creativity to flow and then honor it with action. I let it play out and while doing that, I have fun. The worlds I create didn’t exist before. The characters are from my imagination. And as I write and share my works, I recognize the parallels to life.

We can create whole worlds and characters that come in to progress the plot and then leave when their role in our story is done. We can bring them back or leave them out. It is completely up to us – the author of our story.

After a year, I know I will never be the same. I gave myself permission to shine. Permission to dream. Permission to create and then I said yes. Yes to it all. Yes to me. And writing is just a part of the me that I say yes to, every single day.

In honor of that, I am sharing my stories with you. Beginning December 26th through December 30th several of my books will be completely free to download. This is a way of saying thank you to that unseen force that asks us to say yes to our lives, to show up in our lives, to be present in our lives in thoughts, words, and actions.

2017 is upon us and at this moment you have a choice. The choice to say yes. My wish for you is that you be inspired by my words whether from my works of fiction or inspiration and that you will say yes to you. That you will choose to make 2017 your year to give yourself permission to shine.

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Following are the books I’ve published in 2016. Please take advantage of this gift and download and read as many as you want over the days they are set to free. You may also share and give this gift to others.

A free pdf Reviewer’s copy of either Heaven is Now: Enough Excuses, Chosen, or Out of the Woods may be available to those who commit to writing a review on Amazon.com, on my website (either here or Bernette.net for fiction), and on your platform (if applicable). If I am already familiar with you, simply email me and allow me time for processing. If you are new, please email me and include who you are, your website where you post your reviews, as well as links to your social media accounts. Free copies to those I am unfamiliar with are limited to vetted and legitimate book reviewers.

Under my pen name A. Bernette, enjoy the following:

Travel to the future in my Chosen series saga with the building suspension and diversity of Chosen, my debut sci-fi book.

Experience the modern world through the eyes of Goldilocks as she discovers of magic, evil, and love in Out of the Woods.

Take a walk into a paranormal world where a simple mistake could cost an innocent girl her life in Crossed: The Karma Crusades.

See what a simple bench holds in The Wait, an intriguing short-story.

For aspiring writers, get my book of tips, suggestions, prompts, and resources, FOCUS: How to Write a Four Week First Draft (Use a simple tool I used to stay on task and accountable).

For those with an interest in dowsing and  development of spiritual gifts my best-selling book Pendulums and Protection: An Introduction is a great start to developing your intuition.

Under Bernette Sherman, be inspired with the following works:
Read my Amazon best-selling book Heaven is Now: Enough Excuses for inspiration in the form of essays, talks, meditations, and poetry.

The Fall and Rise of Faith: Losing My Religion and Finding God is a short book about my spiritual journey of discovery

My long-poem The Castle and Her Lady is a socio-political poem that has great relevance in this day.
Most of the above books are also a
vailable for free for Kindle Unlimited members.

In addition to the above works, three additional novels – books two and three in Chosen Series and one stand-alone have been drafted and are in the pipeline for 2017 and 2018. A new game of insight is also being developed as a tool for guidance as you reach for the dreams, desires, goals, and life you want.ownload #free #kindle #ebooks #bookgiveaway #freebooks #freeebooks #sciencefiction #paranormal #dystopia #poetry #inspirationalbook